The King Advantage BLOG
The Visit & Letting Go
Linda S. King
When buying a vehicle there are many deciding factors; standard versus automatic, SUV, car, or truck, electric or gas, sun roof or convertible; size, room and comfort. What are the available options for this purchase? Color, GPS, music, tires, push start, four-wheel drive versus all-wheel and so on….Often times you visit multiple dealerships and test drive a variety of models before making the final decision.
It surprises me that the VISIT, the COLLEGE VISIT, where cost is reaching $60-$70,000 per year is not always considered a priority when millions of dollars are at stake. Yes, millions. Not only should you be looking at the current room, board, tuition, and add-ons; you should be researching the return on your investment; future salary potential, benefits, and lifetime earnings including retirement perks, and your student’s ability to contribute to their own life savings.
Why else should you visit? First of all your student must feel comfortable with everything from the living situation, food options, location, class size, activities, weekend events, surrounding area, crime on campus, culture, and fit. As parents you have a different vantage point and a lifetime of experience compared to your student. Yes, it is much easier for you to share opinions on the school in question, and you should. My advice—wait! Let your student experience the college informational session, answer questions for him or herself, and make their own judgements after the tour. Sometimes fading into the background of a tour and dropping off is okay; the tour guide was way too bubbly, or way “something” as described by my clients. It’s not being rude, it’s a matter of figuring out the fit, and sometimes getting to the next college on time. There is no way they will keep an open mind, so its better to let them find “THE ONE, or THE SEVERAL” by visiting, touring, and more visiting.
The VISIT is critical to understanding what makes your student unique; perhaps they like having classes where the professor will not know them or maybe the all girls school you made them visit becomes the favorite. Compromise, and communication are key with the entire college admissions process, and letting them steer the car sometimes goes along way.
See more of The King Advantage College Visit tips by clicking the link below “Strategies for Planning & Organizing the College Visit.”